Sex is an experience - and, with hope, a good one.
Unfortunately, when you're sexiled - sleeping on the common room couch because your roommate kicked you out to have sex with a partner - sex is nothing more than an inconvenience.
Which means, like it or not, you and whoever else is concerned - and that's your business - may want to establish some rules of etiquette.
Many University students living on campus in doubles or sharing a room off campus already have.
Rutgers College sophomore James Hanly said to consider how rude sexiling someone might be.
"I've never asked someone to be sexiled, only when they willingly offer do I accept," Hanly said. "It's rude to ask someone to leave."
Beyond an "I'm having sex" note left on the door, there are a lot of positions - yes, pun intended - or at least questions to consider here.
First of all, consider whether you are the sexiler or the sexilee.
Then consider which one is more fun.
Obviously, it's miserable to be sexiled again and again just because your roommate keeps hosting XXX parties, an anonymous student said.
Then again, as Douglass College junior Lisa Kasdan said, "Sometimes people think sexiling is bad, but when people have sex while you're in the room it's worse, trust me."
So, before you sexile your roommate, consider whether or not you are being reasonable.
Reasonable, of course, can be entirely relative.
So, sexilers of New Brunswick, take a moment to stop and think. No, with the other head.
Here are some guideline questions to ask yourself, before sexiling your roommate:
What time of day is it?
If it's the time of day when you know your roommate won't mind going to the dining hall and grabbing a bite to eat, or hanging out with some friends at another residence hall, or doing some work at the library, then sexile away.
"I think any time of day it's okay," Rutgers College junior Jon Gardner said.
But if you know it's the time of day when your roommate usually likes to sleep and you know they have a test tomorrow, maybe have sex elsewhere, or at another time.
Of course, answering these questions requires having a good relationship with your roommate, because what is sexile etiquette about, if not creating and maintaining good relations with your roommate?
Secondly, where is your roommate going to go?
If you know your roommate has nowhere to sleep except for the corner of the custodian's closet, I say you take the closet.
If, however, you roommate sleeps next door practically every night, what's one more night? How important is it to your roommate to sleep in his or her own bed?
Also, did you give your roommate a chance to pack a few things?
"I need advanced notice," Livingston College senior Michelle Davis said. "It's not cool for me to come home and find out I can't be there. If you give me advance warning, I can pack clothing, a toothbrush. I can prepare."
When was the last time your roommate sexiled you?
If your roommate and you share similar lifestyles and you routinely kick one another out, remember to use protection and enjoy.
If your roommate has never sexiled you, let alone talked to members of the opposite sex, maybe you want to go elsewhere.
Also, how often do you sexile your roommate?
If this is the twelfth guy you brought home this month, maybe you should get tested and then go over to his place.
This is common sense, or at least common courtesy.
Besides, us sexiled roommates have our obnoxious ways of getting back at you.
So, if you want to be the super-dooper-bestest-sexiler-ever you could be extra nice to the sexilee the next day - some people even buy the sexilee dinner.
A sort of, "Hey, so sorry you didn't get laid," consolation prize.
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